Somehow when I watch this video I want to be an astronaut, ENJOY!
6 days in a row of playing nightclub roulette, feels like the Summer of 08′ again. I look back on last then weekend as the icing on the cake, just thinking about it has me cheesing. I had no objectives or any goals, my thoughts were solely spent on promoting this blog and learning about Social Marketing (Which is efffin’ complicated as hell) which flipped into me meeting a compelling young female last night. After I dropped her off, I began to analyze each night in retrospect. Suddenly, it dawned on me.
I created SM (Social Momentum)
You might be thinking, “WTF is he talking about now?” Pdons Blog define SM as this:
“The longer you go without breaking the ice and talking to people, the harder and harder it becomes to break out of that natural anti-social state and start talking. On the other hand, if you are able to get into social state, then as you talk to more and more people, you feel good (you’ve got the ball rolling), and it almost becomes harder to not talk to people than it does to socialize.”
Here’s the play by play on how the week went:
Monday: Celebrated a friend’s birthday, played the spectator part most of the night. Made a couple approaches and didn’t meet any new girls.
Tuesday: Went to Bishop Tavern, approached a couple girls, went to Vintage and hung out with my friends for a 2 hours.
Wednesday: Went to GI (Green Iguana) approached 8 different people, even re-connected with a friend from a long time ago and had a good time.
Thursday: Created a goal, to find a girl and go watch Paranormal Activity 3 with me. I got the girl, but was too late for the movie /facepalm I did have a good time meeting new girls and playing beer pong and making some new friends that night.
Friday: Went to Scene, danced and hung out with friends..Nothing major.
Which brings me to Saturday night, Hold up. Hold up. Hold up. Hold up. Love that Mix!!
I had been in a good mood the whole day. I decided to hit the local Walmart and by a new shirt..
:drum roll please:
I approached the night like my post about living the Green Lantern way of life. As I walked to the nightclub, I still had no particular expectations for the night ahead.
We walked into Vintage, straight to the bar and bought ourselves some shots. “Johnny Vegas right Anwar!” my bartender says, “Yes, Please” /smileyface, I replied.
From that point on, I turned on the heat. The gears were flowing from there on out, conversations were natural, I made it a point to speak to everyone in my vicinity. At this point, our group had become the focal point of fun in the room. Countless groups of women, positioned themselves around us, it made approaching them too easy.
Then I bumped assess with Dentalbabe..
The attraction was instantaneous.. she bumps into me and gave me the puppy dog eyes. I do a lil booty dance and she connects her ass with mine. I twirl her and she pushes her pelvis against mine and we roll our hips together in rhythm. I compliment her on her skills and I start a conversation with her friend, I make sure she doesn’t feel left out.
<tangent> It’s not rocket science, when your dealing with a set of 2 or 3 girls, you engage them all. Create a flow of good emotion and fun. It’s not going to be about the girl you want until her friends like you also. Believe me, when they go to bathroom .. they’re not peeing.. they gameplanning.</tangent>
Dentistbabe wanted another drink and they all walked off. After they left, I turned around and went back dancing with my friends. I backtracked to some previous sets and to keep myself sharp, shot the shit with a asian girl after I kept rubbing my ass on her every time I sat down.
Dentistbabe’s group comes back, she doesn’t engage me off the back I get the sense she wants me to chase. I spend 2 more minutes with my friends and go back over to her. 2 seconds into the dance, I bump into a friend I haven’t seen in a long time. Jumped off Dentistbabe and talk to her for about 10 minutes. This continued throughout the night, she (dentistbabe) was pretty cool about it, she scored points for not being to clingy.
Later, I lead Dentistbabe outside for some fresh air, her feet is hurting so I take her to sit down on the edge of fountain. We start the pivotal sexual touching and banter. She’s definitely good with teasing and banter, her challenging nature led me to want her more. The conversation died a tad and she had hinted on going back inside to her friend. I thought it was over at this point..
She became less engaging and I knew something was up. So, I left downstairs to my friends and hung out with them.
<tangent> I left on purpose, just to see her level of investment in me . Dudes, you never want to hover around a girl, especially when your out with friends.</tangent>
At this point it was already 230am, my friends had already left and I was getting tired. I rolled up on her, gave her a hug and told her I was leaving.
“No wait” she says.
I could read right through her, she wanted to go home with me. She explains, that her friend maybe going home with a guy also. Walked outside, and now the hard part …
She is backwards rationalizing the night and making a choice to whether come home with me. She calls her friend over and tells her the situation and what to do with her clothes, we say our goodbyes and off we go.
During the drive, I ask her, “Why are you attracted to me”? As she is explaining, I picked up on about 3 different reasons why. She told me that the way I convey’d myself in the club, I reminded her of her former fuck buddy of hers.
- I spoke to everyone around me (Social Proof)
- I walked away from her, allowing her to miss me a little (Willingness to walk away)
- My adorkable smile on approach.
I only have to thank the previous 5 nights of clubbing. I was more open and susceptible to approaching, my attitude was friendly and engaging to the people around me. And best of all, I didn’t plan on getting laid so I had no expectations to disappoint myself.
What’s funny was that I can tell by the way we were talking to each other in bed I knew this was a one night stand and just that. We had no chemistry, no emotional connection just the physical one. Obviously a girl willing to go home with me on the first night isn’t a girl I plan on keeping in the long run.
In conclusion, I’m learning how to detach myself emotionally. Not that current night but the days after, the women are not even in my mind. I’m taking the experience for what it is, and moving on. I have to say it feels damn good to have an abundance mentality out in the field, you remind independent from the outcome.
This I became HER FAVORITE JUICE…….