Browsing Around on Facebook this morning, thinking about my shortcomings from last night I ran across a post by a friend that said the following:
Fail of the night… Possibly the year:
<status>Met these 2 pretty girls outside the Lobby (A Club) My friend new one of em. The other one hugged up on me and said since they’re friends we are too. Said she wanted me to help her get to her house safe 5 blocks up the road. Then wanted me too carry her into her bedroom, you know just to make sure she got home and in bed safely. As we’re walkin and talkin, my hammered friend pulls her girl into vintage. Now we had to go in there of course. Blah blah blah my friend started huggin up on a diff girl inside and the other 2 left…. Smh. We never even exchanged names. #Fail</status>
St. Patrick’s day is the one day of the year where “One night Stands” are the norm. Women who haven’t had the pleasure of good dick in months may completely “LET IT FLY” this night. And I’m speaking from personal experience.
I’m going to break this down from a teaching point of view.
- My friend knew his friend was drunk and from that point before he walked into the club. He should have grabbed him and taken control of the situation. THAT was his chance to turn on attraction ques (Leader of Men) from his girl’s perspective.
- He had one more chance inside the club. His friend veered off and started talking to another girl. Then and there he either sent a girl to pull him away from the other or do it himself.
Same thing happened to me last night. I had an opportunity for a legit pull with a girl I had completely stopped texting 10 months ago.
In order for it to make sense I have to take you back a year to a normal day driving around with friends turned into a random approach. I just finished pouring oil into my gasket and shut the hood when this hottie strutted herself out the store. It was apparent that my friends only like to eye fuck so I decided to man up and walk over. Introductions ensued, words were exchanged, phone numbers were swapped and DONE.
We texted a little bit and she told me she was taking her son to Orlando for basketball. I had every intention on texting her back afterwards but I just forgot…
And here we are..
I two-stepped towards the dancefloor and found myself stuck between a few sets of girls. Out of nowhere one sandwiches herself between my friend and I. Being the gentlemen I am, I guide her back to her friends. One looks over her back in my direction and recognizes me.
As soon as she says, “We met Auto Parts store”, it dawned on me that it was the girl from the year before. (Interesting development….)
Now it’s on..
She’s sending the right signals, Strong eye contact, smiling and rubbing down my chest to my waist. To any girl who’s reading this an you want to make me melt.. do those 3 things and I guarantee I’m puddy in your hands.
At this point I didn’t have to run any material because we already have a rapport with each other. Now, I want to mention she’s already attracted to me, but she starts the shit-testing about the 3 year difference between us. She’s actually friends with my older brother and begins to call my by “Lil D” (His name is Derrick btw) to tease me. This is were I began to feel the frame shift a little bit, because just from THAT… it’s apparent I had to shut it down.
This line is for women who use age against me:
Okay, so you got to watch scooby doo (X amount of years) before I did, so what?
This line is always money!
Passed that test. Now the real flirting starts, but she’s out of banter so she begins to repeat the nickname she gave me. Still smiling, w/ strong eye and NOW rubbing my crotch. I grab her hair, slightly pulling it and go in for the kiss.. and I get denied. Completely un-calibrated reaction by me and this is where I fucked up.. but the vibe wasn’t ruined, but she goes back to her friend shortly after mentioning to text her later.
Later, I see her moving through the crowd coming towards me. I stopped in my tracks to see her reaction. Passing me I see slight eye contact, the biting of her lips, grasping my hand and gripping my junk. I let her pass thinking I’d see her again but I never did….
That was a Missed encounter..
Here’s a list of things I didn’t do..
- Engage the friends more and gain they’re approval. Once I get that, they start to encourage the interaction between me and the girl.
- Built more sexual tension slowly by whispering in her ear, moving slower and leading.
- The 2nd time she walked pass me, taken the initiative to find out what was going on with her group, inviting myself to hangout with them.
The important thing is learning from failures, you can’t learn if you don’t try and push out the comfort zones limiting you. You have the capacity to take advantage of any situations bought but do you have the balls to be a man and take charge. NOT this night!!
Comment if you have similar experiences or stories you want to share similiar to mine. I’d like to hear them