First I want to say thanks to Elliot for posting this video. Because I have always wanting to talk about this subject but never could shape a perspective to work around. But before you read any information regarding on how to deal with negative people WATCH this video!!!
To give or NOT to give? That is the question. It’s not until we reach our early 20s THAT we become aware of the full effects of the negative energy around us. We learn from our friends and how they deal with they’re situations. No matter how small the size of the situation negativity effects us all the time. How to block it out and NOT give 2 damns? Let me tell you how.
When having a night on the town it’s 2 things you need to know people.
1) Your perspective – The only perspective that matters
2) Public Perspective – The perspective you don’t give a damn about.
You can’t avoid the negative perspective of others. Hell, I’d say its the greatest challenge to fight against. Mentally your brain is protecting itself from the pains of humiliation and discomfort. So, thinking of approaching a girl your mind will begin to backwards rationalize all of your failed attempts and send the warning signals out of DON’T DO THAT REMEMBER LAST TIME.
Remember all the people who laughed at you or gave you crazy looks for talking to the woman who was clearly out of your league? It’s the same situation with the story of Jesus and how he dealt with people in his time. He had a focus and goal his determination was immovable because he had a message to delivery to his followers and his people. He didn’t care for the haters or all the people who tried to shun his name.
Think about it? The perfect remedy for dealing with the negative influence of public perception is focus and determination.
Having a strong inner game requires a healthy support system also. Which means the company you keep also. Your friends support is one the better key ingredients to maintaining a strong frame and resistance to public perception. I have one friend I go to whether i’m feeling good or pessimistic he can make me laugh. Everyone needs a friend like that, and you’re lying if you say you don’t.
When I go to clubs I learned 60% of the people aren’t even aware that your in the room. That’s over half the venue NOT even looking at you approach or TALK to women. Of course, people in proximity of you will recognize what your doing but while they may joke about your failure they’ll secretly feel motivated by your efforts.
I never put down guys going after girls. Well actually, That’s not true… lol
I never put down effort, if I see one dude putting in work from opening til close fuck his reasons for talking to girls I’ll respect that he’s getting after it and playing the numbers game.
In my first few years of pick-up. I quickly became they guy people would see with the prettiest girls in the club. Women liked I actually had the balls to approach their group. Men, began to see me as like a Leonidus of the club scene.
After a while I noticed myself dependent on the validation the public was giving me. So, I began to believe if I wasn’t fulfilling the criteria of what the public new of me. I’d feel lame or devalued. Which meant the public had more control over my confidence than I did.
I never believed it to be true on my own.
After a while I stopped being so pro-active in the clubs. I began to sit back and chill and approach women when I wanted to. Outside of the club I started building a more interesting personal life. Last year I went to Dayglow, this past February I went to Megacon and I tell women about those experiences all the time. And you know what? They don’t care.
I began to embrace my likes and dislikes wholeheartedly. NOT to apologize to people because I like playing video games, drawing and Anime cartoons. It’s apart of my reality and essential portion of my being. Why deny who I am for some pussy.
I THINK NOT!!!!!
Be you fellas. If she doesn’t like it… they are billions of other women waiting for your approach, text or call. Continue to build an interesting personal life. Achieve the goals you see fit and most importantly, keep your sanity lol.